Understanding Digital Media Literacy: A Parent's Guide

As parents, we've all had moments where it feels like technology is moving at light speed, and we're just trying to keep up. If you're like me, you probably didn’t grow up with devices in your hands. But today, our kids are immersed in a digital world, and we’re left figuring out how to help them navigate it safely, responsibly and balanced. Trust me, I’ve been there not only with my students, but my three teens! I had to learn, research (still do, daily), and dive deep into what all this tech means for our kids and family dynamics—so you’re not alone if you feel overwhelmed. I go through all the nitty gritty so that I can share broken down ideas and research with you in quick, meaningful bites.

Understanding digital media literacy isn’t about mastering every device or app. It's about knowing enough to guide our kids through a world filled with content, interactions, and risks. It’s about learning how to critically engage with what’s online and teaching our kids to do the same.

Why Digital Media Literacy Matters

You’re probably thinking, “But my kid already knows how to work a smartphone better than me!” While that might be true (and no, let's not call them digital natives), there’s more to digital literacy than being able to navigate apps or devices. According to research from the ySKILLS project, digital literacy goes beyond just "button-pushing" or functional skills. It includes understanding how digital platforms operate and the larger impact they have on our society.

In essence, it’s not just about knowing how to use technology—it’s about using it wisely and with purpose. This means helping kids understand:

• How to critically evaluate information they come across online (because not everything they read is true).

• How to communicate effectively and safely in digital spaces.

• How to create and share content responsibly, recognizing the impact it can have on others.

With the rise of social media, apps, and constant connection, digital media literacy has never been more important. Kids are spending so much time online, and without guidance, they might not fully understand how their online actions can affect their real lives—and the lives of others.

What Does Digital Literacy Look Like in Everyday Life?

To make it more real, let’s talk about how digital literacy shows up in some of the popular platforms your kids are already using, like Snapchat, Instagram, TikTok, or even just text messaging. Sometimes it's nice to have something to relate to when we're talking about these topics, and I'm sure most of you have one or more of these going on in your home. Here's just a few examples:

• Snapchat: On Snapchat, messages and images disappear quickly, which can create a false sense of security. Digital literacy here means understanding that even though content vanishes, screenshots can be taken, and words or images shared impulsively can still have long-term consequences. It’s about teaching our kids to pause before they post and to consider how what they say or share could impact others.

• Instagram: Instagram is full of highlight reels—curated, filtered versions of people’s lives. Here, digital literacy involves teaching kids to see through the filters and not compare themselves to what they see. It’s about helping them recognize when content is sponsored or manipulated to create a certain effect, and guiding them on how to report inappropriate content or behaviors when necessary.

• TikTok: TikTok’s fast-paced, addictive content can quickly pull kids into a never-ending scroll. Digital literacy on this platform means teaching kids how to critically analyze the videos they watch, understand trends, and question the credibility of influencers. They should also know how to manage their time effectively, balancing entertainment with offline activities to promote their overall well-being.

• Text Messaging: Even with something as simple as texting, digital literacy is essential. Kids need to understand tone and intent can be easily misinterpreted in a message. They should also be aware of digital boundaries, respecting others’ privacy, and knowing when to turn off notifications to focus on the present moment.

The Link to Digital Wellness

Digital literacy isn’t just about safety; it’s a key part of overall digital wellness—the idea that our online interactions and habits affect our mental, emotional, and physical health. When our kids learn to balance their digital lives with their offline world, they’re more likely to develop healthier relationships with technology. And that’s where we come in as parents.

I always encourage parents to take small, bite-sized steps. Ask your kids what they’re watching, who they’re talking to, and how they feel after being online...you know, check in. These conversations are the start of helping them become more aware of their digital habits. They need the tools to handle the digital world with confidence—and digital literacy is the key to that.

Talking to Schools About Digital Literacy

I know, we can’t do this all on our own. That’s why it’s so important for schools to play a role in teaching these skills, too. Many schools are already incorporating digital citizenship programs (or a one off assembly), but there’s always room for more, much more. Talk to your child's school about the importance of including digital media literacy in their curriculum—not just how to use tech, but how to think critically about it. Even if there's a ban...that doesn't mean schools can't address this important content.

I recently sat in my child's parent night, where a teacher said they are forbidden from using AI because he wants them to think critically. My immediate thoughts were a) are you teaching any digital media literacy in the school, and b) can't you teach critical thinking while introducing and utilizing AI tools in the classroom? Isn't this the best time to be doing that, when they have you to guide them and help them before going out and doing it poorly on their own? By working together with schools, we can create a supportive environment for kids to thrive in both their digital and physical worlds.

Equipping Yourself and Your Family

You don’t have to be an expert to teach digital literacy at home, but knowing a few key principles will help you guide your kids. And that’s why I created the Digital Parenting Essentials Membership. In this membership, I'll offer 1:1 coaching videos on topics like digital media literacy, online safety, and fostering healthy digital habits—everything you need to get started, with new sessions monthly. Think of it as your cheat sheet for the digital world! I'll also have a private Facebook group for members where I'll hang out, answering questions and inviting expert guests. Parents need and want help, I'm determined to make that happen.

Digital media literacy is the foundation for raising kids who not only use technology but understand its power. We can’t escape the digital world, but we can prepare our kids to navigate it thoughtfully. 

Feel free to share this with your parent groups or even your school community to start conversations around digital wellness and literacy.